When’s a snuggle more than a cuddle?

Therapy can be a challenging but rewarding journey, often uncovering deep-seated issues related to past trauma. Recently, I've been experiencing the effects of this intense work, manifesting as bad dreams, migraine attacks, and brain fog. In these moments of vulnerability, I've found solace in the simple act of snuggling on the sofa with my furry friend, Barney.

Intrigued by the soothing effect of this physical comfort, I delved into some research and discovered the fascinating science behind it. In the 1990s, Stephen Porges introduced the polyvagal theory, which sheds light on the intricate connection between our bodies and minds.

You've likely heard the expression 'gut feeling,' and it turns out there's more truth to it than we might have realized. The polyvagal theory reveals that the majority of impulses in our autonomic nervous system actually travel from the body to the brain, rather than the other way around. These signals originate from various parts of our body, including our stomach (yes, our gut),and other internal organs.

Porges describes this phenomenon as 'neuroception,' a process where our body constantly sends information to our brain, which is then interpreted below the level of conscious awareness. This ongoing communication serves as a constant cue, alerting us to signals of safety or danger in our environment.

Our bodies are remarkable in their ability to respond to these perceived threats. When danger is sensed, the sympathetic nervous system springs into action, triggering the well-known fight or flight response. This physiological reaction floods our system with hormones, preparing us for action and affecting various bodily functions. From increased heart and respiratory rate,reduced digestion and impaired complex thinking. This state is often referred to as dysregulation. This is the state I was in following a recent challenging therapy session. There was no present danger but due to trauma my body was sensing past memories as now.

It was the polyvagal theory that came to my rescue with its fascinating concept: co-regulation. The front portion of our vagal nerve named the ventral vagal pathway, plays a crucial role in our capacity for social connection. Interestingly, when people gather, especially in close one-on-one interactions, our nervous systems actually communicate with each other.

Co-regulation occurs when a calm individual interacts with someone who is agitated. The serene presence can help regulate the distressed person's nervous system, aiding them in settling down. This soothing effect isn't limited to human interactions; even a cuddle from a furry friend can have the same effect. This is what I found in my snuggle with Barney. A simple cuddle on the couch was powerful co regulation.

As I continue my therapeutic journey, I find myself more attuned to my bodily sensations and their impact on my emotional state. When I find myself out of sorts I can reach out to a trusted other or Barney to help me soothe. Do you have a family member, friend or pet who offers you co regulation and supports your wellbeing?

I’d love to hear about them, especially your pets! Leave a comment here or on my Facebook page.